i feel like every human should max out at one disability or chronic illness. like when i hit adolescence and my brain chemistry went “bipolar time now?” the response should have been an error message like sorry! this slot can only contain one (1) item and has been filled with childhood asthma. i would even allow the possibility that you can overwrite previous disorders like “you have equipped chronic migraines and so now will no longer display symptoms of bipolar disorder.” i just think it should work that way.
sitting anti-kink posters down in front of a wrestling match and explaining kayfabe to them with the patience of a preschool teacher
You see that one? He’s called the “heel.” He looks mean and says a lot of scary things, but it’s not real and he’s actually very nice. When he says “I’m going to break you in half” you don’t have to be scared because it’s pretend. These two talked about this beforehand, and now they’re playing pretend together. Can you think of any other situations that might be like this?
i was talking with a friend in her mid 20s on discord about this and i realized it might be worth saying out loud but as an older transfem one of the biggest societal changes i have seen in my lifetime has been not necessarily the lessening of socially acceptable homophobia and transphobia but the increase of love for us
like in some ways there is less transphobia and homophobia sure, but in other ways there’s more and i sorta see it as a conservation of energy type deal like less ppl have that kind of hate in them but the people who do have more of it
they still kill us when we’re vulnerable obvs but now we don’t let comedians make jokes about our deaths without pushback and social cost
that image of the sf gay mens choir showing how many of them died to aids haunts me and i can’t help but think that similarly, there’s a reason there’s not many transfems my age who have been transitioning since their teens or 20s and it’s because a lot of us are dead from violence or self harm. like i cannot believe how much more blasé the average cis person is about a trans person now, and if you are reading this and thinking wow she is full of shit it’s still bad etc i want you to know it used to be so much worse
most of my peer group now is dead or they didn’t start transition until later in life like me and are now being positioned as elders
so yeah if you’ve ever raised the social cost or took a visible stand for us thank you for sewing that into our quilt